A 25-year-old organization, Codependents Anonymous (CoDA) is a unique 12-step group that is open to anyone who struggles with developing and maintaining functional relationships with others. Many who are in recovery for substance abuse or who struggle with other mental health issues find that codependency is an obstacle to living a life that is defined by balance and peace. Meetings with a Codependents Anonymous group can be useful in helping to pinpoint the underlying issues that may be increasing your issues with codependency and work through them in order to build stronger, healthier relationships with others.
5 Types of Codependency Characteristics
CoDA has developed five sets of characteristic patterns that exemplify some of the most common issues experienced by people who struggle with codependency. Some are defined by a lack of will, asexuality or extreme passive behavior. Others are defined by controlling behavior, manipulation and over-the-top emotionality. They are:
- Low self-esteem
What Is the Definition of Codependency?
Codependents Anonymous does not offer a definition for codependency or any sort of diagnostic criterion. They do, however, provide a list of characteristics that are common among those who benefit from taking part in Codependents Anonymous.
Recovery Patterns of Codependents
The general understanding of codependent behavior is that it is not ideal for the codependent. Certain behavior patterns and choices may be compulsive for you but ultimately the effects of behavior are not what you would like to experience. For every pattern of behavior identified as codependent in nature, there is a pattern of recovery to help participants learn how to alter their perspective to improve their quality of life.
An example: If you often minimize, deny or alter your true feelings, you might turn your attention in recovery to becoming more aware of how you feel and honestly working through those emotions if you find them uncomfortable.
Codependents Anonymous Online Resources
In an effort to expand their fellowship, some CoDA resources are available online. Some options include:
- CoDA chat rooms
- Email support
- Online sponsorship
- Online communication with other members
Learning to Relate to Others
No one lives on an island and the biggest problem for most people in Codependents Anonymous is figuring out how to manage their needs and wants in relation to other people’s needs and wants. For some in Codependents Anonymous, the goal is to be more assertive. For others, quelling the tendency to want to micromanage the lives of those around you is the challenge. Everyone is different, and it’s a unique situation when multiple types of personalities with different struggles get together to help each other heal. The dichotomy of interactions in the rooms can be healing within itself and serve as a practice arena for real-life situations.
Do You Want to Start Your Own CoDA Meeting?
An information packet is available online that gives you everything you need to start your own Codependents Anonymous meeting in your neighborhood and register the time, date and location online in order to draw new members who are interested in participating.
Would you like to learn more about the benefits of incorporating 12-step meetings like Codependents Anonymous into your mental health treatment plan? Contact us at the phone number listed above to be matched to a program that has a wide range of diverse offerings to enhance your treatment experience.